Welcome to The Holiday Sanity Blog Tour, 20 days of tips, tools, techniques, and perspectives from me (and 19 other coaches) with LOVE this holiday season. I’m so excited to be a part of this tour and connect with a group of like-minded coaches that have such a passion for helping others. When the awesome Megan Hale & Jenn Scalia shared their vision for this blog tour with me, I knew I wanted to be a part of it. My intention for this month is to hold space for others to feel expansive, to allow space for rest, growth, breathing and connecting. And that’s what this blog tour is all about.
So without further ado, please enjoy my insight into getting through this holiday season with grace, ease, and well-being.
I’m a big fan of gratitude—HUGE. When I’m grateful for someone or something, I feel it in my heart. I want to shout it from the rooftops. I want to wrap that person or thing up in a great big hug. And yet…I’m left with these two tiny words that feel so inadequate—“thank you.”
I use exclamation points and capital letters. I even express my gratitude in a variety of languages.
Thank you! Grazie! Merci! Danke! Gracias! Dĕkuji! Blagodaria!
But still the words feel a little bit empty—UNLESS I say them while making eye contact. Yahia Lababidi wrote that eye contact is “how souls catch on fire.” When we make eye contact with someone we really connect with them. Our soul connects with their soul.
Gratitude is a practice of connection. It’s a way of acknowledging that we’re all in this together. It’s a way for humans to hold hands with each other and with the universe.
I challenge you to connect with others this holiday season. Look people in the eyes and say “Thank you” and really really mean it. Give gratitude. Let it be your gift. And receive gratitude too. When someone thanks you for being your awesome self or doing something compassionate for them, receive their gift. Feel it in your heart. Allow their thanks to settle in your soul. Connect.
Don’t be stingy with your gratitude. Give it with love to everyone you meet. Thank the people who serve you during this holiday season. Thank the people who interact with you. Thank your body for carrying you through an amazing workout. Thank your brain for allowing you to have a magical meditation. Thank yourself for giving yourself what you need, whether it’s time or space or love or chocolate. Thank your pets for loving you unconditionally. Thank those who inspire you. Thank those who teach you. Thank those who make you laugh.
And don’t forget the things we so often take for granted. Be grateful for electricity and heat and clean water. Be grateful for cars and roads. Be grateful for food and shelter. Thank the trees and the sun and the universe. Go all out. There’s no such thing as too much gratitude.
Gratitude is grounding. When the world is spinning and you’re feeling frazzled, give some gratitude. Share your gratitude for your heated seats or for the fleece you are wearing or for the fact that you had tissues in your car when you had a sneezing fit.
Here are a few ways to up your gratitude game:
Write thank you notes
Real ones—handwritten notes that you actually send through the mail. And don’t just say “thank you.” Tell the recipient why you’re thankful for them or their gift. Gush about how wonderful they are and how lucky you are that they are in your life. Go overboard! You only live once.
Stop, drop and gratitude
Wherever you are, whatever you’re doing, pause and think of (or write if it’s safe to do so) three things you’re grateful for. This is especially useful when you’re feeling anxious. Walking into a stressful family gathering? Stop, drop and gratitude before you step through that doorway.
Ever randomly think “I’m so glad so-and-so is in my life?” Tell them! Tell them right now. Call them or write a letter or send an email or a text or post it on social media for the world to see. Gratitude is for connecting, not for hoarding.
Connect with others. Share your gratitude. And listen, really truly listen, to what others are grateful for. Maybe your gratitude conversations happen at the dinner table or in bed or in line at the grocery store. Open up and share. You never know whose day you’ll make.
I’ve had so much fun connecting to so many amazing coaches who are passionate about helping others. I’d love for you to have access to the rest of the tour so you don’t miss out on this valuable resource.